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I Was Bullied - Girlville

I Was Bullied

I Was Bullied

A couple of years ago, I was bullied by some of my best friends.

 It was really hard and really unexpected. I’d never felt like I was “different” before. I’d had the same close group of friends for many years. We’d just made a trip to my friend’s cabin all together, and everything seemed normal. But suddenly one of them stopped talking to me, and then another, and then another. As if that wasn’t bad enough, they started spreading rumors about me online and posting embarrassing photos of me on Instagram. One day at school, they sat me down and listed every single little thing they hated about me. It was really petty and minor stuff, but it still hurt a lot.
It was hard to be at school where I had to see them every day. They would yell nasty insults at me on the playground at recess, and sometimes I’d insult them back. I wish I hadn’t said some of the things that I said, but it was hard not to fight back when they were hurting me so badly.
I cried a lot – in the bathroom at school and at home. It was hard to understand why they hated me all of a sudden when we’d been best friends only a few weeks before. They made me feel like I wasn’t a good person. I’ve never felt so small.
I’m happy to say that I have new friends now and my former bullies don’t bother me any more. Some of them still go to the same school as me, but now we ignore each other in the hallways and it’s mostly ok. It’s still a little weird, and every time I see one of them I still get a tiny bit angry. But I’ve realized that I’m better off without them, and that the things they said about me aren’t true. 
I know I’m not the only one who’s gone through bullying, so I thought I’d share some things that helped me get through it
  • It’s ok to be upsetAt first I was embarrassed by how sad I was, and I tried to stop myself from crying or being upset. After I talked to my school counsellor and some of my friends, I realized that what was happening was a hard thing to deal with and that it was ok to be sad. Holding your emotions in isn’t a good way to deal with your problems. 
  • Walk awayIf bullies are being mean to your face, try your best to walk away. I know it’s easier said than done, and I wasn’t always good at this. But when I said mean things to them, I always regretted it afterwards. You’ll feel better if you resist the urge to act the same way as your bullies. The same goes for online posts – if someone is posting mean things about you, don’t comment back. Report the post and request to have it taken down.
  • Talk to someoneYou’re not alone. I was lucky to have some friends who didn’t join in the bullying, and they were there for me when I needed to talk about my problems. I also told my parents, my teacher and my school counsellor. I don’t always like to talk to my parents about this kind of stuff but knowing they were supporting me through this actually helped a lot. Sometimes I wanted to talk to someone who didn’t know me or my friends, so I called ConnecTeen. They were easy to talk to and listened to me pour my heart out about what was going on.
  • Let them goIf you’re being bullied by good friends like I was, don’t try to make them be friends with you again. This was hard for me, since we’d been friends for so long, but gradually I realized that I deserved better than to be treated like this. I held on to my other friendships and made new ones, and I’m a lot happier now.
I hope that some of these tips help you if you’re going through bullying like I was. If you are being bullied, remember that you’re a good person who doesn’t deserve to feel small. There are people in your life who care about you, and what your bullies are saying about you isn’t true. It took me a while, but I finally realized this, and I’m a lot happier now.


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